The Friend's Menu

There are different friends that you call for different reasons, when we are in the fragile emotional states, you need to decide who to call. It is like choosing food from a menu where love all of it but you need to figure out what would be the best thing for you at that moment.

Sometimes, when you are really pissed off, you need to call a friend to get pissed off with you. It is a bonus if they get even more mad then you and take the anger to another level where you can say, "Yes, I am mad, but now we are being ridiculous." Once you realize this, you can dial it back a bit to find that perfect amount of anger and frustration for the situation.

Other times you just need a friend to cry to and you need to feel better you call someone you know will make you feel better. One friend, I have, read me letters I wrote to him over ten years ago. It was amazing that he had saved them and it reminded me of simpler times.

When you are entirely overwhelmed with a situation you are too close to, you call the friend that tells you how to feel. One time an ex I hadn't spoken to in almost a year sent me a picture message on my birthday, I opened it, thinking it was a birthday wish, to find it was a picture of a girl's left hand with a ring on her finger. We hadn't talked in years, I didn't even know this girl's name. I felt like I had been involved in a drive-by-shooting but really, it was a drive-by-text. I called friend # 3 and she was just the right amount of angry for the both of us.

All of the friend's a great, if you order the wrong one, you can pretend you are getting another call and order someone else. :)

Grieving Process checklist

There are a few steps in my grieving process some more self-destructive than others.

Step 1: Cry and call a best friend who will listen to you cry and say that person X is an asshole and never deserved you anyway. Thank you Kerri. Check.

Step 2: Text a hot member of the opposite sex and schedule a make out session. Man with mysterious pen marks on his door to remain nameless :). Check.

Step 3: Buy *#&% me shoes. Thigh-high boots? Always a practical decision! Check!

Step 4: Change your hair. Called Adam today. Explained it was and emergency, will see him tomorrow. Check.

Step 5: Plan a great weekend with friends.